Ask Dr. Stanley: How should I witness to my co-worker?
Being a light in your workplace can be a challenge, but God's love can open doors.
Q: In hopes of sharing the gospel, I recently asked a co-worker if he believed God had a plan for his life. Somehow my question rubbed him the wrong way. He walked away from our conversation and has treated me differently ever since. To be honest, I sometimes find his negative comments irritating. Should I keep trying to convince him God is real?
A: Before answering your question, I’d like to express how grateful I am for your willingness to share the gospel, even though it’s caused you some hardship. The Lord warned us this would be part of following Him. But through the cross, He also showed how we’re to respond when others mistreat us—by interceding for them, just as He prayed for the men who drove nails through His hands and feet. Jesus said, “Father, forgive them: for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). The most powerful thing you can do for your co-worker is intercede for him.
If this seems unnatural, ask God to fill you with His love. Love enables us to step out of what is natural and live on another level. It helps us see beneath the surface and understand why people behave in certain ways. Then, any anger or irritation we feel towards them is replaced by compassion and faith. We see the real person God had in mind from the foundations of the world.
At the same time, ask the Father to touch your co-worker with His love, and expect to be His instrument. If there is a jab or an attempt to provoke you, just let it go. Allow God’s kindness, patience, and humility to flow through you and speak louder than words can. After all, Jesus said His disciples would be known by their love (John 13:35), not their ability to argue.
Over time, you may see a change in your co-worker’s attitude, which can open doors to further discussion. Whatever comes of your situation, one thing is for certain: You will have learned to love, and there’s no greater lesson than that.
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